Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Parenting is hard

Parenting is the hardest job I've ever had.

Not that I've had extremely strenuous jobs i.e. coal miner, brain surgeon, or nuclear physicist.

But parenting is definitely the hardest thing I've ever done.

We had parent teacher conferences on Monday. Although they spent nearly half the meeting telling me all the great ways our Big Boy is making progress - I don't remember any of what they said.

What I do remember is the areas where they pointed out he is behind.

They made suggestions for things we  can do at home to promote his development in these areas.

I respect his teachers immensely.

When they make a suggestion, I am on it. A woman with a job.

This time around they had some great suggestions that I am happy to tackle, but they also made some suggestions that I am not so thrilled to attempt.

We had a few, slight, differences of opinion.

The question then becomes - Do I do as they suggest? Or not?

I know our Big Boy better than they do, but they have years of experience and an outsider's perspective that I don't have.

I have opted to give things a try.

If I think it's too much for our Big Boy, I'll pull back.

I trust them, and they think it's time to push our boy a bit, and by extension - I'm being pushed a little bit, too.

I firmly believe it takes a village to raise a child, and I must trust his village.


  1. I feel ya- LB's preschool had a lot of great things to say about him, but it's obvious that he has areas to work on. Fortunately, the teachers are not suggesting anything I wouldn't TRY (and they were right about the psychologist they recommended), but it's hard to essentially makeover your way of living at the recommendation of someone who doesn't live in your house.

    Good luck! We are going through the same thing in our house. :)

  2. i am at the opposite end of this question but i know what you mean. it is the toughest and most challenging thing you will do ..staying married and raising kids is tough. all i can give you is something nana (who was a teacher) said all the time. listen to that inner mother voice. you will know when it is right for both boys and when the "experts" are going off track. don't question that voice ACT ON IT..mother trumps you guys..